Sometimes I realize simple truths. Those that I should have realized years ago. Not all of us are lucky to be able to learn quickly. I am one of those. :)
So, to speed up someone else's process of learning and maturing, I decided to post my simple truths here.
Enjoy in any case!
So, simple truth # 1:
In order to be able to celebrate others' successes, you have to fully enjoy successes of yours.
Today we played a game, and I won. Of course I felt happy that luck favored me this time. Usually, I do not express much my happiness about winning. I do not even let myself feel it fully. But this time I made one step further - I let myself feel it and express it - happiness for my luck. And so I felt good.
Later on, a friend of mine won. And to my great surprise, looking at her, I actually felt exactly the same feelings I had about me winning last time. And then I realized, that I couldn't have felt it for her, if I hadn't felt it first for myself. You have to live it through, fully and openly, in order to join someone else's feeling.
The same is with grief and pain. "I know how you feel" - this can be said only if you have actually lived something similar through yourself. We all know that being compassionate when you actually had the same experience is much easier than imagining the feeling. And being compassionate about happiness is natural when you are happy.
Be total in your happy moments! Feel it 100%!
So, to speed up someone else's process of learning and maturing, I decided to post my simple truths here.
- You may have realized it already - then I am happy for you
- You may know it in your head, but have not actually felt it, realized it - keep trying
- Maybe my post will be a revelation for you - I am happy that it helped.
Enjoy in any case!
So, simple truth # 1:
In order to be able to celebrate others' successes, you have to fully enjoy successes of yours.
Today we played a game, and I won. Of course I felt happy that luck favored me this time. Usually, I do not express much my happiness about winning. I do not even let myself feel it fully. But this time I made one step further - I let myself feel it and express it - happiness for my luck. And so I felt good.
Later on, a friend of mine won. And to my great surprise, looking at her, I actually felt exactly the same feelings I had about me winning last time. And then I realized, that I couldn't have felt it for her, if I hadn't felt it first for myself. You have to live it through, fully and openly, in order to join someone else's feeling.
The same is with grief and pain. "I know how you feel" - this can be said only if you have actually lived something similar through yourself. We all know that being compassionate when you actually had the same experience is much easier than imagining the feeling. And being compassionate about happiness is natural when you are happy.
Be total in your happy moments! Feel it 100%!
